If you just recently became engaged, the first thing I want to say is…congratulations! It’s an exciting time for you now, and the planning is about to start…or, it should. While some people thoroughly enjoy this stage of the process, there are others who are intimidated by it all. Planning a big event is not for everyone. If it were, there wouldn’t be so many careers in event planning.
However, ignoring it, or putting it off until later, will not make it any easier on you…or anyone else around you. I am going to share 5 different ways that you can more effectively plan the perfect day for you and your fiancé.
1. Plan the Budget
Before you plan, buy, or even look at anything, know your budget. Choose an amount of money that you are willing to spend, long before you start planning or shopping. Some might say that you need to know the cost of certain items in order to know what your budget will be. However, I don’t agree.
I don’t think you should let the cost of certain items dictate to you what you are willing to spend. Make the decision, between you and anyone else who is going to help pay for the event on how much you are willing to spend, first. In other words, if you only have $10,000 to spend, then that is what you have to work with, right? So, finding a venue for $9,000 will leave you with either not having anything left for other items, or increasing a budget you clearly can’t afford.
Do yourself a favor and dedicate a reasonable budget, and stick to it.
2. Take Charge
You will most likely be bombarded with opinions, of all types, and from so many people. There isn’t a lot you can do to avoid it all together, but you can take steps in diminishing the over-abundance of unwanted opinions, which only resorts to hard feelings and frustration.
Put your foot down right in the beginning. If you want final say in everything, which you have that right, let everyone know that right away. Let them know, that while you realize they are excited for you…and appreciate that, it’s your wedding. They have the opportunity to plan their own, and you will grant them the same respect you are asking for in return.
If you don’t do this, you will be overrun with so many varying opinions and end up making choices that you might doubt as a result. Take charge from the beginning, and keep it.
3. Get Organized
Organization is vital to any successful event. And, since this is a once in a lifetime event, you don’t want to skimp here. There are a few ways to help you stay organized, such as the following:
- An Event Planner – By far, this is the most expensive method of planning a wedding. The reason is because they do a lot of the work for you. Of course, they can’t do everything, but they take away a lot of the running around and research by doing it for you. Along with the cost, the other downside that I can see is that you are relying on this person to find things you like, and they might not, if they don’t have a good understanding of what you want.
- A Wedding Planner Book – By today’s standards, this is an old fashioned way of planning a wedding. It’s a lot less expensive than a wedding planner, and allows you to organize the many areas of a wedding that need to be considered.
- Online Wedding Planner – When it comes to online event planning, Pinterest is at the top. It’s free, and allows you to have access to everything you find, right at your fingertips. You can create multiple boards for the various categories in a wedding such as the dress, venue, flowers, and photographer. It also allows you to instantly share these images and ideas with others. For example, if you found a lovely diamond brooch online, which would be perfect for your mom’s dress, ‘pin’ it and she can view it instantly.
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If I had to plan my wedding all over again, I would be utilizing Pinterest for its convenience and the ability to see and share so many ideas with so many other people. You can even follow others, such as famous designers, other brides, or photographers.
4. The Importance of a Timeline
Do a little research to know how far in advance you need to book the venue of your choice, or how long it will take to get alterations for your dress…not to mention how long it will take to come in after ordering it. Most everyone will be helpful in giving you these guidelines for time…and, if they aren’t, move on to someone who will be upfront and honest.
However, having this information won’t do any good, if you don’t heed their advice.
5. Accept the Inevitable
And finally, you will do yourself …and everyone around you, if you accept that it’s not all going to go perfectly. Expect the unexpected, and then accept it when it happens. This is a big event, with months of planning and many areas to coordinate. For everything to go just the way you want it to would be nearly impossible.
If you just ‘go with the flow’, you will eliminate most of the stress that could literally ruin your day far more than someone’s dress not fitting right, or the wrong color flowers showing up.
Guest Author: Mark Harris has been enjoying a successful career as an Internet Marketer and freelance writer. While working from home, Mark often writes on topics that he drew inspiration when browsing the Internet. In fact, while perusing http://www.lovediamonds.net, he decided to tackle the topic of planning a wedding. Mark is married and lives in White Rock, B.C where he enjoys times on the many local beaches, hiking, and kayaking.